Our Journey from Courtship to Wedding Day.

It’s good to see some good news in relationships.. I lived a crazy life of sin before becoming born again. I also gave my sexuality to God on my own without influence.. and while I had the conviction to abstain until marriage.. I didn’t have the heart revelation of Gods heart for marriage, sexuality, purity etc

I was in a church back in 2003 and courtship was very big there.. but I lament that most of the courtships were at a surface level and that the heart and conviction that I mentioned above was not there… and I believe still isn’t there to this day.. although I am no longer a part of that church for other reasons.

Going into my now failed marriage… yes I was abstaining, yes we were courting and doing all the right things… but at a heart level, we were both still getting married to get our needs met, but just didn’t realise it yet nor did our over-site have the understanding or perception to correct or lead us in this.. when I say surface level I mean we all spoke the lingo and learned a language on courtship, but it hadn’t penetrated the deep recesses of the heart to the point that it pulled down strongholds in the mind and heart.

We courted and did all the right things on paper and on a surface level, but as soon as we were married all the junk that was lurking below the surface came rushing to the surface. After many trials, having a child, my ex developing terminal brain cancer (stage 4 glioblastoma) and then being healed from that cancer.. even then, the foundation was rotten and the house/marriage eventually fell.

While these two seem like a sweet couple and very sincere, I pray that they find the full measure of Ephesians 1 heart revelation on the heart of God in covenant relationship as they continue to put themselves out there and speak the principles of truth. God bless them for being vulnerable about their pasts and how God is working in their lives.