Chronicles of Purity (Sexual purity while single.)

If you think everyone is having sex that is just not the case. There are plenty of people male and female, young and old that have made the conscious decision to wait until they are married to have sex, in order to live sexual pure lives. This is their story.


Damien Kheri Harris Nash, 27 years old, single, virgin

 Why are you not having sex?

What do I, Damien K. H. Nash and Tim Tebow have in common? Well, we are both saving ourselves for marriage. That’s right, I am a virgin and I am proud to say it. I have been made fun of by my closest peers and called every derogatory name under the sun whether it was punk or even homosexual. And you know what, it never really bothered me. I made a promise to mom that I would keep myself for marriage even though she does not even recollect our serious conversation. Funny,huh? To tell you the truth, I decided long ago that I was going to keep my body as a temple for the Holy Spirit, holy and pleasing to God. One thing that this generation has to learn is that we can not conform to this world but we have to renew our minds daily to conquer the appetite of the flesh. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a daily struggle but if we continue to surround ourselves with great men and women of the faith by God’s grace and mercy, we will be just fine. However, when temptation does come our way we can stand on God’s word in 1 Corinthian 10:13  “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. ” Trust me he got me out of two incidents, so I know he can do the same for you… Blessings!

Josh Rice 17, single, virgin

Why are you not having sex?

“I aim to be different as everyone in my age group does but I’m different in the fact that I don’t conform to the world of sexual immorality but to conform to the Word that God has given me.”

Ashley Peters, 22, single, 1 yr six months since she has had sex.

Why are you not having sex?

“The Bible says to flee from sexual immorality and I believe as Christians, because the Bible tells us to live holy lives, we should strive to live uncompromisingly. I personally stay away from music, artists, TV shows,  family members and friends who refuse to stay away from fornication.”

Haaron Mintz, 22, single,  a new Christian, 5 months since he has had sex.

Why are you abstaining?

“Mainly for sexual purity. It clearly says in the Word to run from sexual immorality. I struggled with that. I felt I needed to give myself to someone to show them I care but then I realized how valuable I was to God and in his eyes. It is unnecessary to have sex outside of marriage. It confuses people. If I say I love someone I don’t have to have sex with that person, if I trust God.”

Jocelyn Sistrunk, 29, single 7 years since she had sex.

 Why are you not having sex?

“I am not having sex because I want to honor God and I don’t want to give myself to anyone who is not my husband. “

How are you able to abstain?

“I watch what I take in my spirit. I watch what I see on TV, what music I listen to what people I hang around because all of that plays a part in what do. Most importantly I stay full of God’s word and communicate with God on a regular basis.”


Christine Dixion, 34, single, 1 year since she has had sex.

Why are you not having sex?

“God’s word overrides my emotions, my feelings, and my thoughts. His truth is what keeps me pure. His word is the truth. His word rules over my personal feelings, earthly thoughts and my desires.”

 

Keith Hall, 31, Newlywed, Waited 2.5 years before married.

Why did you begin your journey with sexual purity and abstinence?

“I decided to wait because I had become very reckless with my sex partners. Felt like God led me to be so in order to find my wife.”

How is sex now compared to when you previously had it?

“It is more enjoyable now because you know you can do so without consequences. You can have sex and it honors him, he is pleased with it because you are in a covenant relationship.”

Mark Payne, 40, single, 14 years since he has had sex.

Why are you not having sex?

“Because God wants us to stay pure and I’m not willing to share myself with other people besides the woman I am supposed to be with.”

What advice would you give to someone trying to abstain from having sex?

“Get an accountability partner and don’t put yourself in a vulnerable position and keep yourself from a position to fall. Don’t be unequally yoked. Be with someone who is on the same page and same direction as far as abstinence.”

Erica Craig, 29, and single for the moment.
It’s interesting because, just a few years ago, I never thought I would be a person who is living sexually pure and waiting until marriage. My theory was, I’ll wait until my next serious relationship. God, however, had a different plan for my life. It wasn’t very difficult for me to abstain, it was the thought of waiting until marriage. But now I’m truly convinced that waiting for marriage is the best decision I ever made. God slowly started to reveal things to me about not waiting until marriage. Without going into specifics,  let’ just say, if I ever questioned hearing the voice of God I definitely heard Him that day. There has been a time or two when temptation has crept in, but like 1 Corinthians 1:13 says, No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.”  I thank God for the strength he has given me to remain sexually pure for the past 4 years and I will remain faithful to that commitment until my wedding night…  then it’s on! LOL!
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Comments

  1. Erica Craig says:

    I’m proud to say I also decided to abstain from sex until marriage. This June will make 4 years!

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